6 Steps to Help Cultivate Growth

Cultivating growth in your life can be so exciting! But it can also be a time where many are fearful and scared of the unknown. It’s so easy to revert back to the bubble of what we are all used to. Yet frustrated that you couldn’t persevere. This was me … But it doesn’t have to be you for long! In this post I offer 6 Steps to Help Cultivate Growth into anyone’s life. It doesn’t have to be hard.

When I look at all the growing I have done in the past few years I know it wasn’t because I sat cozy in the corner I was well known to. It was because I DID IT. And I want you to be able to do it too! This a time for a call to action! A time to reinvent the wheel in a way that better serves you! And I get the added joy of watching your succeed in ways you never thought possible.

Being uncomfortable = Growth.

If you want to change, really change, it means you need to put yourself in different environments, choose different choices, say different things.

All of this can be really scary! That is totally okay to feel afraid, fear, or anxiety, I’ve been there. That is why I felt called to create this post; to help an individual cultivate growth. All too often I feel as though there are steps we can get really stuck on and that is when we could use a supportive friend the most. Let me be that for you.

Where do You begin??

Begin with the What

It’s as simple as recognizing what makes you feel uncomfortable. Or what you want to change. This could be an act, a person, a relationship. Maybe a friend talking about a topic and you experiencing negative emotions. Or an inkling in the back of your mind. That little voice that speaks to you that you might push back but continues to speak over and over to you.

Calm it Down, Focus

This step is difficult, especially for me, I can really over analyze. No matter where you are Breathe. Did you know when you take a deeper breath it helps your body go into the parasympathetic mode? This is your “rest and digest mode”. When your body recognizing stress it will go into the sympathetic mode causing the infamous “Flight or Fight mode”. I’m totally the flight mode kind of girl. Don’t like it? Nahhh I’m out.. I’ll crawl up the wall if I need to, I’m not joking.

If you want to begin to work through these feelings and emotions you have to come from a place of reasoning, so breathe it out girl, you got this. When you are calm and focused you are able to reson with yourself better and think through the situation.

Try to recognize all that is present with your mind and body during this time. Physical and mental. It is okay to take your time to process during this time as you might experience many things and it may take some time to sift through everything you are experiencing. That is OK.

Recognizing

What exactly made you have those feelings? Also what were they? Maybe they were actual physical symptoms, or thought. What ever it is slow down, breathe and try to self analyze what exactly you are feeling, All Of It.

When you are able to self analyze all that is around a topic or emotion you are able to further unpack it. I like to think of this as Up Stream Thinking. You starting at the way you portray something and working backwards to the root cause of why you are doing or thinking the way you currently are.

When we start to bring awareness to these feelings, and thoughts we can bring awareness to this area of our lives and being to.. you guessed it; cultivate growth.

How to Go about it

This is when I would like to refer you to my journaling prompts for Cultivating Growth. I recommend creating a safe place for yourself so you can come and revisit this area. Creating a safe space is a great way for you to have a practice of knowing when you set up a certain thing or ritual you are embarking on inner work. You can also light a candle, burn incense for a clearing energy, or even set out crystals. What ever will help you to better drop into yourself and explore further go ahead and do it!

Continue to Go Back

I know, you won’t want to do it at first. I didn’t. But the more you begin to revisit those memories and work through them in a calm emotional state, you are able to reason with yourself on what is truly going on. Each time you go through this, it will be easier. You will recognize right away before the feelings arise that the conversation or situation might put you in that uncomfortable space and you will be able to talk your self down out of the situation or feelings you may be experiencing.

It Gets Easier

After all the inner work I have done for myself I am now able to voice during a conversation that the subject makes me a certain feeling because of x,y,z. I can only hope that one day too you will feel the strength to do this. This isn’t an overnight process and it has taken me most of my 20’s to do. But my goal is to help you that means the world to me.

I also want to add if you feel as though you can not do this by yourself then please seek professional health from a licensed provider.

I hope these 6 Steps to Help Cultivate Growth help you in your new life adventures, what ever that may be. As always please share and comment! And don’t forget the Journaling Prompts!